Average length of dating before moving in together
They do not leave their futures—including their marriages—up to chance, but instead proceed through life in a very intentional manner.Many have delayed receiving their relatively high incomes for several years to pursue graduate degrees.
This is much longer than the 2 year relationship “trial period” suggested by some theorists.I will risk to suggest that very few couples that cohabit do get engaged formally, though they may consider their moving in together as such.That is to say, the condition in the first part of question is not fulfilled, and also makes it difficult to suggest an answer to the last part of the question. First, not all states have common law marraiges, including CA, where I am (as well as my friends in question).I think we would agree that "dating" ends when a couple starts to cohabit and also with the engagement of those who do not. Now, you asked how the couples feel about living together in terms of level of committment.
If we arbitrarily define "engagement" as the decision to marry - regardless of any formal declaration - I expect that the cohabiting couples marry sooner than the others, who will probably plan a more formal wedding with a longer period to organize it (ask mothers of the bride what all that entails! To simplify the question: Do couples "date" longer before they decide to cohabit or before they formally declare their engagement? There are too many levels of "co..." without "-habiting" to allow a clear definition. I certainly agree that living together delays "engagement", but if the couple is living together for years, a "common law marriage" in practice if not under the law (remember "palamony" suits) why should they ever consider getting engaged? I am a little intrigued that you consider that these couples have no higher commitment than couples who are not living together. I am probably a good deal older and imagine things differently. I am sure they do view it as a higher committment than not living together, which was probably the point in the first place.I was attending a close friend’s wedding at the Harvard Club of New York, an elegant “Harvard on Harvard” marriage.